Coming Out of the Shadows
Every interaction we have with each other is subjective to an individual’s perspective. We interact through our lenses, prejudices, and insecurities, and what may come off as a person meaning well can, in fact, be taken as a hurtful comment. Other times, there is no justification.
What I’ve been pondering lately is how a person could repeatedly hurt another. What kind of person do you have to be to treat someone with disrespect, malice, and contempt?
I’ve been on a healing journey these last few years to heal my soul.
There’s a difference between living in the past and continually being in pain and learning from the past and healing your psyche from the damage done.
I’ve worked hard to heal myself, but I would get hurt again. I knew I had to change.
How are we supposed to believe we deserve better? Children aren’t born with good self-worth; it’s learned.
I had to learn how to soothe my soul and fix what was once broken. And I am very grateful to be the person I am today with a positive outlook and with a loving and supportive husband. It’s been a noble endeavor to see myself as a worthwhile person who deserves respect and recognition for who I am and what I do.
However, I have been staying in the shadows.
So much shame, wrong messages, and fear have controlled my destiny, and though I now believe I am worthy of the life I choose, taking action has to be paramount. Wishes and desires makes a dream reality. I wasn’t taking myself seriously because I was seeking external validation for an internal struggle that I’ve had with being okay being my real self.
I know that others have struggles, too. We’re all just getting through life the best we can. I’ve been hiding myself a lot for fear of being seen as someone I’m not. We need to celebrate our unique auras and inspire others to do the same. That’s what I’m doing.
I’ve been living in the shadows trying to protect myself from criticism, judgment, and pain.
I don’t want to do that anymore.
To being in the light,
Francesca
