The Kramer character on Seinfeld is hysterical when he blurts out whatever is on his mind. We laugh at his honesty because it doesn’t seem to come from a place of judgment, but rather from a place of love. Seriously, the next time you see Cosmo Kramer do his schtick on Seinfeld, see how he is not afraid to say exactly what he’s thinking. Most of us don’t do that because we don’t want to hurt someone’s feelings. Is the character right for saying the things he does, or would he be a better person with more of a filter?

That’s a tough call because Kramer is a fictitious character created to make us laugh.

So, what about us? How do we feel about telling the truth? For me, I’ve lived with a dense filter that didn’t allow many of my true feelings to come through to most people. I never wanted to hurt someone’s feelings, yet I allowed and acted like it was okay for my feelings to get hurt.

To maintain healthy relationships, we must be honest with one another.

If you lie or omit stuff in a relationship because you don’t want to make waves or hurt someone else, then it’s not a healthy relationship. Being in a healthy relationship means we communicate without fear. The relationships that matter to us deserve the truth, no matter what.

Most of us can deal with the truth, but overcoming a lie or the unknown can be tough, such as when a person ghosts someone and there’s no explanation. That leaves a lot of room for misinterpretation.

I understand that it’s easier to ghost someone than to respond and address the situation. If it’s for a person they don’t know, it shows disinterest, but when it’s done to friends or family, doesn’t that show the same thing? It does. Otherwise, wouldn’t it bother most people not to respond?

Telling the truth to a family member or close friend about how you feel is perfectly okay.

We all deserve to share our feelings. And when we do that in a relationship, it helps us learn who we can trust and who cares about our feelings. We all know the importance of trust. Without trust, relationships are merely a fragile shell, empty on the inside and easily broken.

Hey, if you’re looking for superficial relationships, that’s okay. My point in this blog is to demonstrate that being truthful helps to develop closer, healthy relationships.

It takes a lot of courage to speak your truth. Some people don’t want to hear it. If that truth is what is best for you, then you have to be strong and ride out the fallout. Otherwise, nothing will change in the relationship.

Telling the truth when someone asks, “Does this look good on me?” is a tough one because they might genuinely like what they’re wearing, but it might not be to our taste. However, if it’s ill-fitting and telling the truth might help the person make a better choice, I think it’s okay to be honest.  It’s a sticky situation, but if we care about someone, we want them to look their best.

So, if someone you know well asks you for your honest opinion about their clothes or hairdo or someone else, answer them honestly. You’ll be actually helping them if the clothes or hairdo doesn’t look great on them. Just be careful not to weave your style in with your objective opinion.

When it comes to the truth in relationships, here are some simple things to remember:

|=| A true friend will want to hear your feelings, listen, and care.

|=| Don’t lie to keep the peace. Speaking your truth will make or break a relationship, and that will save you from getting hurt in the long run.

|=| Telling the truth will set you free and allow you to be yourself.

Thank you for reading this.

To the truth,

Francesca

 

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