My last blog was about life beats. I wrote about how life has ups and downs, like the beating of our hearts. There’s even a neat video of a heartbeat. Check it out here. 

The other day, I had a bad day. We all have them. That’s when our reality gets a little too heavy, and it wears us out. I was in a low moment and told my husband, “I’m giving up on my dream. It’s too much work.” I didn’t want to be that hopeless, but sometimes we say things we don’t actually mean. I was venting, but my husband was sad that I said that. He told me not to give up. At that moment, though, I felt like there was no rope left to hold onto. Thankfully, all it took was a good night’s sleep and a new day to get out of the funk.

I felt stressed out and didn’t know how to change it. I let things compound in my head as we sometimes do. That’s when we need to pause our thoughts and bring them back to the present moment, where there is hope, peace, and a way to overcome anything.

Don’t give up on your dreams if it’s something you think about all the time.

Our intuition prompts us to pursue what excites and brings us happiness. I focused on the lack of money instead of the creative projects that had already been done and needed attention. Instead of taking chances and pursuing my dreams, I’ve been playing it safe and protecting them from any tarnish or nicks, keeping them locked in a filing cabinet.

I’ve been writing this blog for a while. It takes a lot to be vulnerable and share my effort and time. I wanted to share what helped me to help others. Plus, I was tired of hiding. I wanted to be seen for who I am—the real me.

However, I blamed a lack of confidence and time, and used those excuses to avoid making a valiant effort to get my work out. And, like all self-doubters, I began to think that what I write isn’t as valuable as I think it is. I’m always checking in on myself with my ego, and the wrong messages I learned made my mind go straight to “not good enough.”

Wow! I told you I was in a funk.

Don’t allow yourself to stay in a funk!

We may stumble and fall, but we need to pick ourselves up and stand tall. This may happen again and again, and that’s okay. It’ll only make us stronger, so nothing or nobody will be able to knock us down again.

Deep in my mind, I used to have a belief that I wasn’t worth much. It was instilled in me from my experiences. Through a lot of internal work, I realized (for real) that I was the only one who could change those thoughts. All the work I’d been doing to heal my mind and my state of being has been paying off. I realize that doubt, shame, and feeling unworthy are simply byproducts of being around hurt people who hurt people.

Elevate your mindset.

Children learn by experience through listening, seeing, and feeling. Those experiences become beliefs, and whether right or wrong, good or bad, they shape who we are. If there was a lot of good in our lives, our mindset naturally gravitates towards positivity. The same is true of the opposite. And everyone processes things differently. Both the bully and the kind, non-assertive kid have been exposed to some form of bullying that left them helpless to know any other way.

All children deserve support, love, and understanding. When a child has that, they believe in themselves, pursue their dreams, and achieve their goals.  They have confidence and love their authentic selves. Children are born into this world as good human beings who want to be loved and cared for.

I wanted to give up on my dreams because I let negativity cloud my judgment. Once again, I rejected myself and drove down the “not good enough” road. It took me a little while, but I managed to turn my thoughts around.

Anytime we choose to take the opinion or perception of someone else above what we think about ourselves, we are, in effect, rejecting ourselves.

It should be common sense, right? But it wasn’t always that way for me. I wasn’t groomed to love and appreciate myself. I think a lot of us weren’t.

So, here I am writing these blogs to show that it’s possible to change our thinking to what serves us well. The first thought to change is that we are good enough. Once we believe that, it’s game over for the power of negativity.

That belief shows us we can do anything we set our mind to, and other people’s opinions and judgments do not matter. I know changing our mindset is challenging, but it’s worth trying.

Life can be tough, I know, and we may want to give in and give up.

If you can believe this, you will never give up.

We were born as unique, special individuals who have something good and interesting to offer the world. It could be as small as being kind to strangers or as grand as painting the ceiling of a famous chapel. Our dreams are who we are, and it’s okay to honor ourselves.

I won’t give up on my dreams, and neither should you! I’m sharing my gifts, even though it’s scary. The first step is always the hardest. So, pull yourself up, dust yourself off, and give yourself a gentle push to get moving to make your dreams a reality.

Thank you for reading this. Please leave a comment about how you are attaining your dreams.

To our dreams,

Francesca

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