There’s been a running story woven throughout sitcoms, movies, and even within families about how women are bitchy.  Women’s fights are called catfights for a reason. Because someone thought women scream like cats? I don’t know. I’m guessing. The point I’m making is that women have been labeled as “emotional” since when- forever?

Today, in 2026, women are still considered less than men. Seriously. I’m being serious because it’s true.

The reason that most women get grumpy is that, in many cases, women do more work than men and do not get the acknowledgment or pay scale they deserve. I wrote “most” and “many” because there are exceptions, of course.

In every single job I held alongside a male, I did more work than he did. That’s my experience. I’m sure there are women (and men) who may disagree with me, but I’m also considering the work done at home. Not a job that pays money, but the day-to-day household responsibilities that get done without question or complaint (most of the time).

But… there comes a point in a woman’s life when she’s had enough, and the only way to express it is to be grumpy. Some women go over the top and are downright mean bitches while others have a milder expression of the angst and seethe in private. The latter would be me, but not always just when I’ve had enough bullshit from life.

Women do a lot (I know some men do a lot, too. I’m writing in a general sense.) We don’t keep track of or tally up all the little actions we take to make another person’s existence better, but we do. And everything is fine as long as we get respect, acknowledgment, and gratitude for what we do.  And guess what? We don’t get that as much as we sho+uld.

That leads to resentment over time. Resentment leads to anger. Anger – well, you know what happens then. Boom boom, the house is a rumblin’!

Ladies, we don’t want to rumble the house. We want to be calmer and happier.

 

And guys, ladies aren’t emotional beings who can’t handle life, we are hard-working, risk takers (chopping vegetables at high speeds with a sharp knife), who hold many different job titles (housekeeper, cook, shopper, therapist, medical personnel, gardener, plant doctor, organizer, personal assistant, and more I can’t think of right now) You shouldn’t be defensive or need to flex your muscles to show how much you do in a day. We know how much you do because when you tell us, we listen!  That’s not a dig; I listen, and I’m sure other women do too.

So, what’s the answer here for men to respect women more, and for women to make a bigger effort to express what we’re thinking and feeling without raising the roof?

COMMUNICATE WITH GRATITUDE

That’s it.

What exactly happens when we communicate with gratitude? First, the idea of being grateful for someone takes away all negative preconceptions, labels, and judgments.  The interaction with a person we’re grateful for is calm and productive. We get what we want by being kind.

Can you imagine that? I could. My husband and I speak to each other like that.

When my husband and I talk, 98 percent of the time it’s with gratitude. The two percent is because we’re human. Were we always like this? I would say for the most part, otherwise we wouldn’t be together, but our communication skills have definitely improved over the years. We respect one another and really, truly are grateful for each other. We are the real deal.

To show what I mean, I’m going to write up a little script that explains how to communicate with gratitude without being weird, super mushy, or phony just to get what you want. Stop that!

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[Scene: Tom and Laurie work as scientists in a very stressful lab for a pharmaceutical company. They are both at the same level in terms of title, but Laurie knows Tom earns more than she does. They work in close quarters in a room with lab equipment.]

Tom: What, you can’t bring me some coffee?

Laurie: Give me some of the money you make, and I’ll bring you one.

Tom: Maybe if you did more work, you’d get more money.

[Laurie is about to burst, but she focuses on feeling grateful for working alongside Tom.]

Laurie: Ouch, that stung. I’m sorry I mentioned the money, and two wrongs don’t make a right. We need to work together, and it can go two ways: playing nice or being mean to each other. I wanna play nice. It’ll make the day go better.

[Tom digs in his heels, but absorbs what Laurie said. He is grateful for his co-worker.]

Tom: I wanna play nice. I’m sorry, too. I’m working on thinking first before I spew out snide comments. I’m trying to be more aware of where these thoughts stem from. Give me time. I’m evolving.

[Laurie calms down and shows appreciation for Tom being honest. Tom appreciates a stress-free/drama-free conversation with Laurie. Tom and Laurie live a long time due to managing their stress levels. Let’s be more like Tom and Laurie.  웃유

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Remember this: Both sexes have a right to express their thoughts and feelings. We are all people, human beings just trying to live life in the best way possible. We need to give one another a break and focus more on gratitude for others. Think about the good things a person does and stay with that feeling when interacting. If there’s something wrong or it upsets you, talk it out, don’t hold it in, saving it for the blowout fight when you have 19 things bottled up.  That’s when women are grumpy.

We need to talk about things as they occur, so there are no miscommunications or ill feelings. Women certainly deserve to air their feelings, and men deserve that too. Women need to start feeling more on par with men, who have no trouble saying what they think. I’m not referring to nasty stuff, just say what you feel when you’re upset. Don’t pull the “I’m fine” or “There’s nothing wrong” game. It serves no one well. By saying what’s on your mind in a kind, grateful way, you’ll be surprised by how your life (and relationships) will change for the better. I’m living proof of that.

Communicate nicely. That’s all I’m sayin’.

Thank you for reading this. I would love to read your thoughts on this.

To not being grumpy,

Francesca

 

 

 

 

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