Peace of Mind

August 17, 2025August 22, 2025FrancescaSelf Enrichment

I had to step away from social media (being online) for a few days. I needed a break to re-focus, figure out what I’m going to do, and gain a little perspective. We all need that for peace of mind.

This morning, I thought about when I was a little girl, around nine or ten, I think, and I had gotten my ears pierced. I went to the pizza place in the mall, where the staff all had a thick Italian accent. Now, whether or not they were really from Italy, I do not know, but they spoke like that. Anyway, I wanted them to notice my earrings because, for some reason, I thought Italian people wore earrings, and I wanted them to know I was Italian too. I know it was silly, I was a kid!

But that’s how I was – always wanting someone to see me. My peace of mind was based on the perception of others.

I got off of that track in junior high and high school and blended in. I hid who I was, fearing rejection. I played along. I allowed my life to be overrun by teenage drama because it was easier than being myself. Peace of mind was so far away.

I went into the woods to sing and write songs. I had no other place to do it. It was a great place to create. I felt like the forest animals/ creatures enjoyed the singing, and I was free to be me. Peace of mind found me there for a little while.

Truth

I’ve always known I was different from those around me, but I didn’t lean into it because of fear. Most of us do that. We hide ourselves to protect ourselves. Where is the peace of mind in that?

Today, it seems to me that some folks are looking for peace of mind in the wrong places. We won’t have peace of mind relying on external gratification instead of being comfortable living life as our authentic selves.

Hell, I know some don’t care why they do what they do, and that’s fine. I’m not judging here, I’m just sharing my thoughts to help others who want to have peace of mind.

Let me tell you that it is freaking hard to face the pain head-on. It is, but I know by continuing to work on the conscious brain, the subconscious will follow, and the pain and incorrect beliefs will be alleviated. I can see the light at the end of a very long, dark tunnel. Hooray!

The weird thing is, you’d think I’d be angry and pissed off, but I’m not anymore. I’m just focused on thinking good thoughts and what will serve me well. What I have lost, I have gained back a thousandfold through unwavering faith, knowing that everything happens for a reason.

Realizing everything happens for a reason is a way of surrendering. Our experiences are meant to teach us something to move on to the next level, like I wrote in my blog post, “Level Up.” If we don’t pay attention, we won’t be able to move on. It’s as simple as that. I’m sure you know someone like that who is set in their ways and unable to evolve into a better human being.

Change is the Key

I hope that what I write is making a difference to someone who wants to improve their life. If I can do this, what I’m doing, with the life I’ve had, anybody can do it. I believe there are far too many folks who are living in pain and don’t know how to handle it, so they choose to ignore it, hide it, or distract themselves from it. That only works so much. Real happiness comes from change. There’s no other way around it.

To achieve a thinner physique, we need to modify our current beliefs and adopt healthier habits. If we want to be richer, we need to change our mental picture of what money means to us. See ourselves having money. To have a healthy, happy relationship, we need to be more flexible, tolerant, caring, empathetic, and loving.

You get the picture.

Peace of Mind

When someone does something that makes them happy, a real happiness (not a temporary fix that feels like happiness), like earning a living doing what they love to do or living where they want to live, it creates peace of mind. That peace of mind transfers into relationships, making them healthier and better. Then, happiness breeds more happiness.

Happiness isn’t just about being giddy all the time, thinking we need to live in a wonderful world full of joy and laughter. Life will test us with ups and downs, but balancing stress with happy moments helps create a healthier attitude.

Happiness is peace of mind, whatever that is for you. It could mean no more worrying. Or being okay with your life and focusing on what brings you peace and joy. The most important point is to stop playing the victim in life and take back control of your peace of mind.

Thank you for reading this. Please leave a comment if this resonates with you. I write my truth and what I know to be a way to a happier life.

Great song to bring this idea home.