Give It a Day
I’m given so many ideas for these blog posts by God/ the universe. I am blessed.
The other day, I did something out of character because I couldn’t process my feelings. I let my emotions lead the way, and guess what? It didn’t work out too well. Emotions can lead us astray, and we can express our thoughts prematurely before the rational part of our brains can catch up.
Birthdays Can Bring on Emotions
I had a birthday. I was never affected negatively by any of my birthdays. You know how some people freak out when they turn 40 and think their life is over. Not me. I was happy to be 40. Some people don’t get that far.
However, this birthday hit me hard, and I couldn’t figure out why. It’s not one of those milestone ages, like 21, 40, or 50. I suppose I never really put much stock into my age. I went by how I felt, and I’ve always had a youthful mindset. Now, the body has something different to say about that. Haha
I shared my angst via a text, and after I sent it, I realized the person I was really upset with was myself. I shouldn’t have written what I did to share via text; it was more of an internal conversation. We can’t take texts back once they’re sent.
That night in bed, while watching YouTube videos, I heard a woman say she was a Gemini sun sign (as I am) and had a bit of a tongue that had gotten her into trouble, and that she had to learn how to be more mindful before communicating with people. It made me feel even worse about the text I sent. But it also made me realize something about myself that I had not addressed before – I needed to take a day before sending a text like that and let my mind catch up to my emotions.
I received a response, and, as expected, the person called me out on a few things. I thought, if only I had just given it one day, I wouldn’t have felt that way, and this wouldn’t have happened. All would be peaceful. But I would not have learned a valuable lesson.
Getting on the Good Frequency
Life is interesting in the sense that once we’re on the frequency of healing, we will continue to receive lessons to level up and become a better version of ourselves. If this experience hadn’t happened, I don’t know if I would have gotten the opportunity to level up.
Whenever we go through something painful or traumatic, our emotions lead us. Most of us don’t process lower emotions well (such as anger, despair, sadness, fear, and jealousy, among others), which puts us on a lower frequency. Those emotions do not feel good.
If we want to stop feeling that way, give ourselves a day to sort ourselves out. This may mean putting positivity in your life (choosing better things to see and hear) to get on a high frequency. Just focusing on what you’re grateful for can create a shift to a higher frequency.
Do we want to move on and level up? Our brains are designed to evolve and improve. If we don’t address the pain, though, we won’t be able to see that.
Think about how you feel when you’re thinking about something good, like the person you love, or being in the moment when you’re doing something you love to do. That’s the frequency we need to be on all the time. Yes, I know it’s challenging to accomplish, but I want to believe that it is possible. I would think that people like Jesus or Buddha were always on higher frequencies.
Feeling certain emotions, such as gratitude, love, peace, joy, or happiness, all evoke a higher frequency —that’s the frequency that feels good.
We must give before we receive.
The idea of giving it one more day means that we get a chance to calm down, think about the emotion, and sit with it for 24 hours. Chances are, we wake up the next day, and all of a sudden, things appear clearer. Having emotions is what keeps us human; never forget that. It’s okay to feel, to be vulnerable, or not want to feel anything at all. We have choices. Give it a day to figure it out.
What that does for us is give us a gift. Heightened negative emotions, insecurities, or painful feelings tend to subside after a day. It’s part of the body’s healing processes. Who is still angry the next day when there was a huge bone to pick the day before? I know I’m not.
What we receive by giving it a day is peace. We get to choose which thoughts are the healthiest and most productive. In other words, we calm down, and we make better decisions.
It’s Better To Respond, Not React
I once read that it’s better to respond than to react. Giving our emotions one more day also creates discipline because we are more in control of our thoughts and actions. Discipline is basically being in control of our thoughts and actions. If we want to stop eating sugar, we must be in control of our thoughts, which will in turn spur us to take the right action that supports the thought of not eating sugar. When we give ourselves one day, we can choose to respond with clarity instead of reacting with emotion.
I write these blogs to share my journey. I want others to heal and live great lives. To me, that is what living is for. We can’t base our happiness on things or other people. All the happiness we’ll ever need has to come from within ourselves.
Thank you for reading this. If you have any thoughts on this idea of give it a day, please comment below.
To giving it one day,
Francesca
Created by a human for humans.
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