Whatever we believe, we are.

Every thought we have about ourselves was learned at some point in our lives. We weren’t born with our beliefs. Our surroundings, interactions, and experiences helped us develop our internal beliefs.

And here’s the thing about beliefs – they are not necessarily the truth. As little ones, we learned from those around us and believed what we heard and experienced as the truth. Sometimes it was not.

If we’re adults who are struggling through life, it’s time to understand our beliefs.

 

 

 

Think about what you believe to be true about yourself. Did you learn it on your own? Where did that belief come from? According to the experts, most of our personalities get formed by the time we reach our teens. That means that what we believe about ourselves and the world is already one with us by the time we graduate from high school. For me, high school was a screwed-up time where I had no idea how to live happily. It took me decades to change the beliefs I held about myself. I was searching, wandering, praying for change. It didn’t come till many years later, so don’t give up!

Whatever you believe can be changed if you want it to. It takes discipline and dedication to yourself.

When you think of a negative thought, stop and ask yourself why you’re thinking that and where do you think that belief came from. That mind shift puts you in the present moment because you have to consciously think about what you’re thinking. Like Confucius said, “You are what you think.”

And guess what? What we think stems from our beliefs.

If we believe we’re worthy and deserving of success, we’ll have success.

That is the law. Well, it’s probably not an actual law, but a law to guide your life by.

Whatever you believe ought to be something good and worthwhile.  If we carry irrational beliefs with us, we need to acknowledge them before we can change them.

How is your life going? Are there any parts of it that are causing grief? If so, ask yourself what you believe about those parts.

For example, what did you learn about money? Some common wrong beliefs about money are that money is hard to come by and scarce, only the rich get richer, or that this is all we’re going to be. Whoa, horsey (your mind), and become aware of your thoughts.

Work your way up to living in the present most of the time, but it’s okay if you slip back to the past or ruminate over the future that doesn’t yet exist. Give yourself grace and just come back to the present as much as you can. That’s where life is. My mind wanders a lot, and I have to rein it back to the present.

I know I’ve written before about living in the present moment, but it’s one of the most essential things needed in life to live happily.  (Yes, we need water, food, etc., but they don’t necessarily help us to be happy.) You cannot find happiness in a memory that has already passed or a “hope” for another day. Happiness, the real “I feel it in my bones” happiness, can only be found in the present moment.

Whatever we believe about a higher power, we learned as children. If you believe that there’s no such thing as God or a higher power, that’s perfectly okay. I would like to believe that those who do not conceive that there is something greater than us still run their lives with a moral compass. Some do not, sadly, but that’s not the majority of us. We are inherently good. It’s believing in that that’s most important.

I didn’t feel a higher power in the church I attended as a kid. I felt a higher power when I was in the woods writing a song, or when life got too much to handle. Praying became my go-to support for everything. I continue to pray and believe I am supported by something I can’t see or hear, but I can feel it.

I know there is a higher power, and for me, it’s Jesus, Mary, the angels, and the saints. I’m not trying to push my beliefs on anyone; I’m just sharing what I believe in.

So, with all that, here’s the summary – whatever you believe can bring you happiness or hell. The choice is yours.

Thank you for reading this. I try to keep these short and full of good info. Please comment below if you got anything out of it. I’d love to know.

To beliefs,

Francesca

 

Created by a human for humans.

 

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